One of the traps that way too many couples fall into is that things like kissing, making love and other displays of affection become irregular and are left to chance.
We tend to think that displays of affection should only take place when we feel like kissing or making love but, once a couple has entered the stage of going through the motions, feeling like kissing or making love happens very sporadically.
A powerful idea I have recently stumbled upon is the idea that kissing (or making love for that matter) should be part of a consistent routine that we stick to whether we feel like or not .
In much the same way as a person who wants to sculpt his or her muscles sticks to a workout routine regardless of whether he or she feels like working out, a couple that wants to keep the relationship alive and thriving should consider things like kissing or making love as part of a schedule.
Yesterday I bumped into a very interesting post from “The School of Life” (https://www.theschooloflife.com/thebookoflife/a-new-ritual-the-morning-and-evening-kiss/) that, partly, says:
I couldn’t agree more: when kissing (and I think the same principle applies, by extention and even more so, to making love) is left to chance it happens so irregularly that the relationship stagnates.
Speaking of making love, I once read that the former supermodel Cindy Crawford said that she actually schedules sex with her husband because her life is so busy that it is very easy to leave this very important part of a relationship to chance.
A very powerful way to avoid leaving such important parts of an intimate relationship at the mercy of wishy-washy feelings is by creating consistent actions that, as the above mentioned website says, will be followed by better feelings and better feelings are the fuel for more kissing and love making.
If we fail to do that chances are that two of the most important pillars that separate mere friends or roomates from a thriving couple, namely kissing passionately and making love, become so rare that the relationship becomes dull.